THE
SIN OF BATHSHEBA

This excellent
article is a joint effort in sharing the thoughts of an insightful anonymous
author. See below for a few comments from Christian women.
If you and your family have a teachable spirit, you'll appreciate this
article. The author has a perspective I hadn't thought of before. Now that I'm
more aware I can't help but make a change. I hope you will gain a blessing by
this article.
"I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in
him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing."
John 15:5
Introductory Comments by another Brother in Christ:
I did not author the following article, although I wish I had.
However I felt the following perspective might be of help for those
sincere Christians who will seriously take that information to heart.
There are two prime directives that exists in every living creature. 1.
Survival.
2. Procreation.
While the first deals primarily with the acquisition of food (appetite,
the second deals exclusively with reproduction (sex).
God created each and every one of his creatures with these two prime
directives perfectly in balance (and He saw that it was good). However, an enemy
(the old devil) has spent his entire destructive energies toward perverting
these two prime directives.
Mankind was created in the image and likeness of God.
It has always been Satan's design to bring man down from that high and
noble position, to be nothing more than a brute beast.
Has he accomplished that purpose by corrupting and perverting these two
prime directives in mankind.
It is the case in nature, the animal kingdom, that instinct drives them
to display themselves in such a manner as to attract a breeding mate.
Is it possible that Satan has been so successful in bringing mankind down
from (the image and likeness of God) that we are behaving towards each other in
a manner which in reality, is nothing less than an animalized fulfilment of the
second prime directive.
An organ in the brain, the hypothalamus, controls many functions of the
body. It
is interesting that this organ controls 1. Appetite
and
2. Sex drive.
Where you see one malfunction concerning this organ you will very likely
see the other.
What have we done with God's body, the temple of His Holy Spirit?
May He have mercy on us.
Jesus
can help us, but it will not be without pain.
Please
read the following article very prayerfully!
Sincerely,
Your
brother in the tender love of Jesus the Christ
THE SIN OF BATH-SHEBA
2 Samuel 11:2
An Address to Christian Women
By a Brother in Christ
We hear a great deal about the sin of David, but seldom does anyone
mention the sin of Bath-sheba. And it is true enough that David's sin was very
great and Bath-sheba's very small. David's sin was deliberate and presumptuous,
Bath-Sheba's only a sin of ignorance. David committed adultery and murder;
Bath-Sheba only carelessly and undesignedly exposed herself before David's eyes.
We have no doubt that David's sin was great and Bath-Sheba's small. Yet it
remains a fact that Bath-Sheba's little sin was the *cause * of David's great
sin. Her little sin of ignorance, her little thoughtless and careless exposure
of herself, was the spark that kindled a great devouring flame. "Behold how
great a matter a little fire kindleth!" On the one side, only a little
carelessness--only a little thoughtless, unintentional exposure of herself
before the eyes of David. But on the other side, adultery and guilt of
conscience; murder and the loss of a husband, besides the death in battle of
other innocent men; great occasion for the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme; the
shame of an illegitimate pregnancy, and the death of the child; the uprising and
death of Absalom; the defiling of David's wives in the sight of all Israel,; the
sword never departing from David's house (II Samuel 12:11-18).
Again I say, "Behold how great a matter a little fire kindleth!"
None of this great evil would ever have taken place if Bath-Sheba had only been
careful not to display her body in the sight of a man.
Observe: she neither designed nor foresaw any of this evil, yet she was
the occasion of it all. She did not display herself *purposely* or
*wantonly*:she did it only *ignorantly* and *thoughtlessly*. Yet the results of
her little sin of ignorance were just the same as if it had been purposeful
wantonness.
Now the reason for my writing all of the above is this: there are many
Christian women today who are guilty of the same carelessness as Bath-sheba was.
Godly women, who would recoil with horror from the very thought of wantonly
displaying their bodies, do nevertheless carelessly and thoughtlessly display
themselves habitually, by the manner in which they dress. I do not write to
accuse them of intentional wantonness. I believe they are as innocent of that as
Bath-Sheba was. But neither can I altogether excuse them from blame in the
matter. The whole world is well aware that certain kinds of feminine dress are
provocative and tempting to the eyes and heart of a man--and are Christian women
alone altogether naive and ignorant? This can hardly be; and yet I do not write
to blame you, but to instruct you--to provoke you to love and good works, to
make you thoughtful where you have been thoughtless before, to make you careful
for the spiritual welfare of the weakest of your brethren, where you were
careless about it before, to make you wise where before you were simple.
The first thing that must be understood is that nakedness before the eyes
of others is wrong. It is wrong in a man, and it is wrong in a woman. When Adam
and Eve sinned, "God made coats of skins, and clothed them". The sole
reason for his clothing them was to cover their nakedness, as the Genesis
account makes plain. Observe, he clothed them with *coats*. They were already
wearing aprons, which probably covered as much as, or more than, much of the
clothing that is worn today. Yet, in spite of their aprons, they were still
naked in their own eyes and God's.
And God did not clothe them with shorts, or swimming suits, or tank tops,
or "halter" tops, or anything of the sort--not with jackets, either,
but with coats, long coats, or *robes* as the word might be properly translated:
.Observe further, he "clothed *them*" with coats. He did not clothe
Eve with a coat, and Adam with a pair of shorts. He clothed them *both* with
*coats*--whence we may assuredly gather that nakedness is just as wrong in a man
as it is in a woman.
But if it is equally wrong for a man to expose his nakedness as it is for
a woman, it is not equally dangerous, for the passions of women are not so
easily or thoroughly aroused by the sight of a man's body--and many women affirm
that the sight does not arouse them at all. A man may therefore (though he ought
not to) go three-fourths naked, and not do so much damage by it. But when a
woman exposes herself only a little, she becomes a fiery dart to tempt the heart
of every man who sees her. Like it or not, this is the plain fact. And because
this is a fact, you are not at liberty to dress any way you please.
"What? Know ye not your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which
is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For you are bought
with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. " as well as your spirit.
(I Cor. 6:19-20)
But if you dress in such a way as to expose your body, or parts of it, to
the lustful gaze of every man who chooses to look at you, you certainly do not
glorify God in your body. And if you fear God and love your neighbor, you *dare*
not dress so. You dare not use the temple of the Holy Ghost as an instrument of
unrighteousness to allure the eyes and tempt the hearts and tantalize the
passions of men.
Many men are wicked and will lust after you in spite of anything you can
do to prevent it. They have "eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease
from sin" (II Pet. 2:14). Should you therefore help them to sin? Should you
put further temptation in their way? Will God excuse you if you do? Other men,
godly men, are not wicked, but only weak. David was not wicked. He was a man
after God's own heart. But in the presence of an unclothed woman, he was
weak--and it would be a rare man who was not. Brethren in Christ are not wicked,
but they may be weak. And the devil does all he can do to weaken them further.
They are forced to live in a world where they are continually bombarded with
sights which are designed by the enemy of their souls to weaken their morals and
destroy their purity of heart.
And must Christian women help the devil do his work? Must they make
themselves a temptation to their brethren even in the congregation of God? Oh,
that you could understand the fierce and bitter conflict in the souls of your
brethren, when you arouse their desires by the careless display of your feminine
beauty. Oh, that you could hear their pleadings with God for help and
deliverance from the power of these temptations. Oh that you could see their
tears of shame and repentance when the temptation has overcome them, and they
have sinned with eyes and heart and mind. Never again would you plead for your
right to dress as you please.
The fact is, you have no such right. You have no right to destroy by your
careless dress the brother for whom Christ died. You are bought with a price,
and you are not your own. You are duty-bound to glorify God in your body - to
clothe that body, not as you will, but as God wills. And a little of real love
for the souls of your brethren would remove for ever from your heart the desire
to dress as you please. For, "We then that are strong ought to bear with
the Infirmities [that is, weaknesses] of the weak, and *not to please
ourselves*. Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good to edification.
For even Christ pleased not himself, but as it is written, " the reproaches
of them that reproached thee fell upon me ". (Rom. 15:1-3) Christ was
willing to deny himself all the glories of heaven, and bear all the reproaches
of the ungodly for your sake, in order to save your soul, and will you plead for
your right to please yourself in your dress? Can you not deny yourself a little
of comfort to save another man's soul? Can you not bear a little reproach for
being "old-fashioned" or "out of style", in order to help
your brother in his battle against sin?
You may think I'm making too much of too little. You may suppose the case
is not so serious as I have represented it to be. But consider: you are a woman,
and cannot experience the passions of a man. You have your own passions, but
they are not the same as a man's. They are (generally speaking) not so strong as
a man's. Neither are they so easily excited or inflamed as a man's. Nor are they
excited in the same manner as a man's. If you would understand the workings of a
man's passions towards a woman, you must take a man's word for it. You cannot
experience it yourself. And the plain fact is, a man's passions are easily
excited by the *sight*of woman's body, as was plainly the case with David and
Bath-Sheba, when he beheld her washing herself. Most men, 'tis true, will be
better able to resist your allurement than David did Bath-Sheba's. They will not
go so far as to seduce or rape you. But how do you know that they can resist the
thought and desire of it? How do you know they do not sin with their eyes and
heart and imagination? There is great pleasure to a man in merely looking and
lusting, even though he goes no farther. You know very well the Bible says,
"Whosoever *looketh* on a woman to *lust* after her, hath committed
adultery already with her in his heart"(Matt 5:28), and will you say that
this is not a serious matter? It is serious, for it is *sin* , and sin is
serious.
Sin blights and deforms and ruins and destroys and damns. And if you
would know just *how* serious a matter this is, you need only read the next
verse, which says, "if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out and cast it
from thee; for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish,
and not that thy whole body be cast into hell". Here is probably the most
solemn statement in the Bible concerning the seriousness of sin, and it is
spoken with reference to the very sin, which you may so lightly and
thoughtlessly occasion by your careless dress.
This is not a light matter and you dare not treat it lightly. At this
point, you may say, "Amen: all true, but I do not need to hear it, for *I*
dress modestly". Are you quite sure of it? If you follow the practices and
fashions of this age, you assuredly do not dress modestly, for modesty is
ignored by many of them, and purposely thrown to the wind by many others. And it
may be that you, being a woman, and not able to see yourself through a man's
eyes, are unable to perceive that which may really be tempting and provocative
in your own dress. God would have you to be "as wise as serpents and
harmless as doves" (Matt 10:16). But if you unthinkingly dress as the rest
of the world does, you are assuredly neither wise nor harmless. Not wise, for
however ignorant and innocent you may be, you are following a system of fashion
which is designed by wicked men and devils to break down and destroy the morals
of men. Not harmless, for however little you may intend it, you thus make
yourself a fiery dart in the hands of the wicked one to tempt every man who sees
you. You will pardon my plain speaking then, if I give you some specific
instructions in order to make you *wise*. That being done, I have confidence
that the godliness of your own heart will make you *harmless*.
As said before, the obvious design of God in making clothes for Adam and
Eve was to cover their nakedness, and any clothing which fails to do so cannot
be right. Bare backs, bare midriffs, bare legs and thighs, are *wrong*
wrong in the sight of that God who clothed Adam and Eve with coats to
cover their bare bodies. Shorts, halter tops, swimming suits, and anything and
everything else which intentionally leave you partially nude, have no place in
the dress of a woman professing godliness. Whatever the rest of the world may
do, *you* are bound to do *right*. And whatever the rest of the *church* may do,
you are bound to do right. And the things, which I just mentioned, are so
obvious and so flagrant a violation of the purpose of God in clothing you, that
there ought not to be a moment's question as to what is right. But (alas) the
standards of the church are sunk so low in our day that there are actually
Christians and preachers who will defend such things. They will actually defend
what is called "mixed bathing"--that is, men and women freely mixing
together in almost a state of nudity. Have they no shame? Have they no sense? I
do not believe they will defend such things when they stand before the judgment
seat of Christ. If they have no shame now, they will have some then. Meanwhile,
we will say no more about forms of dress which so obviously thwart the purpose
of God. Let us turn our thoughts to some things which, while less flagrant,
nevertheless violate the evident purpose of clothing.
*Short dresses*
You need no one to tell you that these are wrong. The whole world knows
they are provocative to a man's eyes. But women who profess godliness, women who
ought to know better, will simply follow the current fashions of the world, long
or short, without any reference to what is *right*. Others will quibble about
how short is too short. Rather than making very sure their dresses are plenty
long, they will make them as short as they dare, while still persuading
themselves they are long enough. You may stand at attention in front of your
mirror, and persuade yourself that your too-short dress reveals nothing, but
only let you sit down, only let you bend over, only let you get in or out of a
car, and what a spectacle of nudity you present. And whether you design it or
not, and whether you like it or not, those nude legs and thighs of yours are
provocation to lust in the eyes of men.
For the same reason you ought to have nothing to do with those skirts
which are slit half-way up the sides. Who cannot see the design of such a
fashion is to expose your thighs to view? Or is it to enable you to walk? So
much the worse if it is. If your skirt is so tight, that you cannot walk without
cutting the sides, by all means throw it away, and get something with a little
more material. We shall have more to say about *tight* clothing later on.
Do you ask how long your dresses out to be? See that your legs are well
covered below the knee, front and back, while you are bending over and sitting
down, and you will be safe enough. But be careful here: it is not enough that
your legs should be covered only from the vantage point of your own eyeballs.
When you bend over or sit down, the *front* of your dress will be naturally hang
lower, so as to cover more of your legs, but the *back* will be drawn up so as
to cover less.
Very often I have seen women sit down and carefully arrange the front of
their skirt so as to cover the topside of their thighs from their own view,
while leaving the sides and undersides of their thighs completely exposed to the
view of anyone sitting across from them. And this will be unavoidable if your
dresses are so short that they only cover you down to the knees while you are
standing erect. If you would be safe, your dresses should cover you well below
the knee *in all postures*.
*Low necklines*
Again, the whole world knows very well that these are a great temptation
to the eyes of a man. And if you are a godly woman, no doubt you would never
dream of purposely wearing a neckline too low. But you may be doing it
nevertheless, through thoughtlessness or ignorance. It is not only low necklines
which offend, but also *large* or *loose* ones. You stand erect in front of your
mirror wearing a large or loose neckline, and think it perfectly modest. But
only bend over a little, so that the material of your blouse falls away from
your body, and immediately the most provocative and tempting part of your
anatomy is exposed to the view of any man who happens to be standing in front of
you.
The same is true, of course, when you dress with the top two or three of
your buttons of your blouse unbuttoned. This *looks* provocative, even if
nothing were actually exposed by it. This *looks* seductive. It looks to a man
as though you must *design* to expose yourself and tantalize his passions. What
else can he think? For what other purpose could you leave two or three buttons
of your blouse unbuttoned? Do you say it is for comfort? Because you cannot bear
a tight , choking collar? I believe you could *learn* to bear it. as the men of
the world do in order to display their stylish neckties.
But waive that. It may be legitimate to leave your blouse open at the
neck for comfort's sake, and it may even be modest(depending upon the garment),
provided you unbutton *one button only*. There can be no possible reason or
excuse for leaving two or three buttons open. It will not add to your comfort.
It is simply following a wicked fashion of a wicked world. Your collar will no
more choke you with one button open than it will with three. One button open
will always be a great plenty for comfort's sake, and with some blouses it will
be too much. If you can leave your top button open, yet not expose your breasts
when you bend over and the material of your blouse falls away from your bosom,
very well.
This may depend upon the nature of the blouse, as well as the size of
your bust. But if there is any danger of exposing yourself, you had better
button all your buttons. You might set the top button down an inch or so, and
make another buttonhole for it, and thus provide for both comfort and modesty.
You can scarcely be too careful here, for there is no part of a woman's body so
alluring to a man as her breasts, and when a man sees a woman with the top two
or three of her buttons open, he will probably conclude it is her intention to
tempt and tantalize men. Is this the impression you wish to give? If not, button
your buttons, snap your snaps, and zip your zippers. And if you happen to bend
over a little in front of a man, and he sees your breasts actually exposed
because of your large, loose, low, or open necklines, unless he is a very rare
man, he *will* be tantalized by the sight, whatever you may think or intend.
Therefore you cannot do as the rest of the world does. Let your neckline
be high enough and small enough to in fact be a neckline, and not a chest or
shoulder line, and you will be safe. Note well: this means if the neck hole of
your garment is large enough to slip over your head, it is probably too large.
Your necklines should be of the sort that you can *close up* with buttons or
snaps after you put the garment on.
*Sleeveless Blouses*
Sleeveless blouses always reveal too much. Little as you may be able to
understand it, your underarms, and the parts of your chest or back which
immediately adjoin them , are very attractive to a man; and a sleeveless blouse
cannot help but display these parts. You must also bear in mind that others will
see you at all angles and in all positions, and the armholes of a sleeveless
blouse will often allow a man to see inside of the blouse, especially when your
arms are uplifted or outstretched, thus displaying part of your chest, and
probably some of your breast.
The same is true of a short sleeved blouse which has very large or loose
sleeves. This may be perfectly modest as long as you keep your elbows at your
sides, but as soon as you raise your arms, you create an opening through which a
man may see inside your blouse, and this is a great snare to his heart. Remember
you are a woman, and cannot see yourself as a man sees you. I am a man, and know
what it is to be tempted by such sights. And if only the weakest of your
brethren might be tempted by your sleeveless or loose-sleeve blouses, ought you
not deny yourself a little of comfort or of fashion, and conceal your body a
little better for his good?
*Sheer clothing*
It ought to be unnecessary to say anything about clothing, which is so
light or sheer that a man may see through it. The obvious and undeniable purpose
of such clothing is to thwart the purpose of clothing, and expose your body
rather than covering it. This you cannot help but realize.Everyone else knows it
also, and when a man sees you thus attired, what can he think but that is your
*intention* to display your body in his sight? Andyet are so low the standards
in the church today that it is not uncommon to see Christian women wearing
see-through clothing. If you have been guilty of this, your first business is to
repent
to
reject anything which is obviously and purposely sheer. You ought to be careful
also not to wear any material which is so light or so thin that it may be seen
through when you are in direct light, such as in front of a window. Finally,
reject any material of a very coarse weave: wear *clothing*, not *netting*.
*Tight clothing*
Dress which explicitly reveals your *form* is as bad as that which
reveals your nakedness. The whole world knows that such dress is provocative
notoriously and proverbially so
and when a man sees a woman dressed in tight clothing that reveals and
displays every curve of her form his passions will certainly be excited by the
sight--perhaps not so quickly or strongly as they would be by the sight of your
naked form, but excited nonetheless. The world calls tight clothing
"revealing", which is exactly what it is
and as such it is an obvious violation of the purpose of God in clothing
you. Every woman who professes godliness, therefore, ought religiously to refuse
every form of dress which reveals and displays her figure.
Specifically, you should avoid sweater, sweat shirts, tee shirts, and
anything made of knit, stretchy, or soft, clinging material, unless perhaps the
fit is *very loose*.
*Woven material*, with some stiffness and body to it, will conceal your
form much better. This is of the utmost importance, especially for a woman who
is large in the bust. There is no sight on earth which will surely attract a
man's eyes, and so quickly inflame his passions, as the sight of a woman's
breasts--whether they are actually exposed, or their form displayed by tight or
clinging clothing. This is a fact which the world knows very well. Twenty-five
years ago the world was singing a popular song about the pleasure of seeing a
woman in a sweater and a tight skirt. Now the natures of man and woman have not
changed in twenty-five years. When a man looks at you he should see your
clothing, and not the shape and form of everything which is inside it. Sweaters,
tee shirts, and knit blouses in their very nature cling to your body and reveal
and display the shape and form of it. And you must take a man's word for it that
the *shape and form* of a woman's body, even though it is covered with clothing,
will draw his eyes, inflame his passions, or arouse his imagination, just about
as quickly and surely as the sight of her actual skin. I do not say it is
impossible for a woman to wear a sweater or knit shirt which is not too
revealing. What I do say is that the sweaters and knit tops which American women
usually wear are almost always too tight. They might do better if they would
wear their sweaters several sizes larger than they usually do. A woman who is
very small in the bust may fairly easily wear sweaters which are loose enough to
conceal her form, but the larger her breasts are, the more difficult this will
become. A woman who is large in the bust had best avoid knit clothing
altogether.
She will have a hard enough time of it to conceal her form without
wearing sweaters. I cannot emphasize this too much, or insist upon it too
strongly. A woman
especially a woman who is large in the bust
must understand, must take a man's word for it, that the sight of her
bust may take away a man's heart in a moment. If she would please her God and
help her brother in this fight against sin, she must dress in such a way as to
hide and conceal the form of her breasts. She must therefore wear
*loose-fitting* blouses of woven (not stretchy or knit) material. If she wishes
to wear a sweater for warmth, she can easily wear a loose cotton blouse *over*
(not under it), and be warmer yet. True this would not be *stylish*, but no
matter about that. I am writing for godly women, who would rather please God
than the world. Understand also that you will accomplish little by exchanging
tight sweaters for tight blouses. A blouse of woven material in its very nature
will conceal your form better than a sweater, but it may still be provocative
enough if it is too tight. You ladies who are overweight often offend in this,
by wearing the same clothes you would if you were twenty or thirty pounds
lighter. And it is nothing but foolish pride, which keeps you from wearing a
larger size.
Your blouse should never be stretched tight across your bosom, but should
have enough slack in the fit that when a man looks at you he sees the blouse,
and not the form of what is inside of it. For this reason you should also learn
to avoid provocative positions and postures. By this I mean any position which
makes your bust prominent, or stretches your clothing tight over it--such as
standing with your hands on your hips and your elbows thrown back, or yawning
and stretching with your back arched. You should likewise refuse dresses with
what is called and "empress waistline" which girds the garment around
your body immediately below the bust, instead of at the waist. The unavoidable
effect of this is to prominently display your bust.
Again I tell you, I am a man, and know very well what it is to be tempted
by such sights and it may take only a moment's involuntary sight to turn a man's
heart into the wrong channels.
*Slacks*
Here we have come to a bone of contention which divides churches,
families, and friends. The background is this: historically in our culture, the
men have worn pants, and the women dresses. This is an undisputed fact, which is
embodied in the proverbial expression that a wife who runs the house "wears
the pants in the family". The "women's liberation movement",
which is more than a century old, has sought to put the pants on all the women,
figuratively speaking. It has sought to "liberate" the woman from her
God-appointed place of subjection to the man, and to give her "equal
rights" to do whatever the man may do . The spirit of this movement has
also put upon the woman's body the man's clothing
namely slacks. And the church has followed the world in so doing. Many of
the older and stricter men of God, less influenced by the world themselves, take
a strong stand against women wearing pants. Slacks, they say, are men's
clothing, and (on the basis of Deut. 22:5) it is an abomination for a woman to
wear them.
The younger set, most of whom have grown up wearing slacks themselves,
and who probably know nothing of the historical background of the question, can
see no point in the stand which their elders take, and so regard it as
narrow-minded and petty. "The slacks which I wear", they say,
"were made for women and are not men's clothing".
On the one side it may be urged that God made neither slacks for Adam,
nor a dress for Eve, but coats for both of them. Yet Deut. 22:5 certainly
assumes that the same clothing is not to be worn by both men and women, and it
is also certain that historically in our country the slacks have been the men's
clothing. Or it may be urged that the culture has changed, so that slacks are
now acceptable clothing for women also. Yet when we consider the sinister forces
which have wrought to change this culture, we may plead that the change is in no
way recognized by God, but is an abomination to Him. I say no more than this,
for it is outside the purpose of this article to settle this controversy. I do
not ask here, is it wrong in the *eyes of God* to wear slacks? I ask, what
effect are her slacks likely to have on the *eyes of men*?
And first, in their very nature, slacks are apt to reveal and display
your form. Women contend for *modest* slacks, but who wears them? In the very
nature of the case, it is difficult to make a pair of modest slacks (especially
for a woman who has a full figure), and as a matter of fact, it is an extremely
rare thing to see a woman in slacks which are not too tight. Why is this? Why
may men wear slacks which fit loosely, while the slacks of women must cling to
every inch of their thighs and hips and buttocks and crotch? Verily it is
because the god of this world who inspires these styles, and he knows his
business only too well. He knows only too well that it is a snare to a man's
heart to have displayed before his eyes the form of a woman's thighs and
buttocks and crotch.
Your crotch
your "private part"
you ought to by all means keep carefully concealed at all times, and
there is nothing that will do it so well as a *dress*. A *loose-fitting* skirt
or dress, *provided it is not too short*, is also the best possible clothing
with which to conceal all of the tempting parts of the anatomy which reside
between your waist and your knees. But some women suppose that because their
slacks are not skintight, they are therefore modest. Well, now, suppose that
your slacks are loose enough that they leave a little space between the material
and your skin.Still they basically display the form of your legs and thighs and
buttocks. This is the nature of the garment and can hardly be avoided. And
further, as soon as you bend over, or sit and squat, those "modest"
slacks of yours will be stretched just as tight over parts of your form as the
skintight slacks which other women wear.
So unless you are so thin that you have no form with which to attract a
man, or so fat that your form will only disgust him (and *you* are no competent
judge of this), you had best leave slacks alone. Though you may not be able to
understand it (for the sight of a man will probably not affect you in the same
way), it is the *sight* of the *form* which will arouse a man's passions. What a
man's touch is to a woman, the *sight* of a woman is to a man. This is plain
enough in the Bible account of David and Bath-Sheba, and every honest man will
tell you the same thing. You must believe it on the word of a man, though you
may not be able to understand it. The *sight* of the *form* of your thighs and
buttocks and crotch will tempt the heart of a man, and it is the nature of
slacks to display the form of those parts. Some, who believe it is wrong for a
woman to wear slacks, but who wish to accommodate their ladies for more
masculine type activities, recommend the wearing of culottes, which are a sort
of a cross between a skirt and slacks. Our only question concerning them is, are
they modest or immodest? They may be either, depending upon several things. If
they are fashioned so as to look like a loose-fitting skirt, or are long enough,
they may be as modest as a skirt. Unfortunately, many of them more nearly
resemble slacks, or even shorts, than a skirt. If yours are long enough and
loose enough to keep you covered and concealed in all postures, they may be as
acceptable as a modest skirt.
Enough for specific instructions. We must next answer some objections.
First: "What right has this fellow to prescribe all of these
legalistic rules for women?" I answer, if we lived without sin in the
garden of Eden, you could dress just as you please, or not dress at all, and
hurt no one by it. But in this world you cannot, and if you do, you will only be
contributing to swell the tide of sin. I write for godly women, who want to do
what is right, but who are not likely to know *how* without some instruction
from a man. I seek only to give you some instruction, which only a man can give,
concerning the effects your dress will have on the men who see you. And I
suppose that truly godly women will be happy to receive such instruction. It is
usually the worldly, who are not willing to do right at any cost, who raise the
cry of legalism.
But "This is a small matter, and not worthy of so much ado". We
ought to occupied with the weightier matters of the heart, and not make such a
fuss over little outward things". This may be an outward thing, but it is
not a little one. Can you read Matthew 5:28-29, and yet contend that this is a
small matter?
But suppose it is a little matter: can you therefore lightly pass over
it, or ignore it? Not so, for "he that is faithful in that which is least
is faithful also in much, and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in
much". (Luke 16:10) The Lord does not rebuke the Jews for attending to the
small matters, but only because they did so to the neglect of the weightier
matters. "These (the weightier matters) ye ought to have done, and *not to
leave the other* (the small matters) undone." (Luke 11:42)
But, "Any man who views women so must be perverted". Yes: be it
known to you that men are perverted. All men. We are sinners. Our pristine
purity is lost, and our hearts are natural and strongly inclined to sin, and
especially the sin of lust. Sin *easily* besets us. (Heb.12:1) But understand,
though all men are perverted from their original purity, and though the
*passions* of all men (except those who are perverted in a worse way) are alike
in this matter, I would not want to leave you with the impression that the
practices of all men are alike, or with feelings of uneasiness in the presence
of men. If you but *dress right* and *act right*, and associate with the right
kind of men, in the right kind of situations, there will be little occasion for
you to be uneasy or uncomfortable. But there will be plenty of occasion for you
to be *careful*,even in the presence of the best men. Why? Because though the
godly "have crucified the flesh with the affections and
lusts"(Gal.5:24), have renounced the unlawful indulgence of those desires
yet the desires themselves remain. It is in the godly that "the
flesh lusteth against the Spirit" (vs. 17).
Men may strive hard to mortify those passions, but it is a matter of
plain historical fact, attested also by virtually universal experience, that the
most sincere and diligent endeavors to mortify those passions are usually not
very successful. The most of men, even the best of men, are likely to be
overcome by those passions. It was a man of God who was overcome by the
allurement of Bathsheba. And since those passions are usually not to be subdued
by mortification, God himself prescribes a more effectual method, which is
*satisfaction*. "It is better to marry than to burn"(1 Cor. 7:9)
"To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman
have her own husband" (vs.2) He advises further, that being married, we
could in moderation, indulge in the satisfaction of those passions, "that
Satan tempt you not for your incontinency" (vs. 5).
"Incontinency" is lack of self-control. It is, in plain
English, the lack of ability to control those passions. And Paul, writing by
inspiration of the Holy Ghost, simply *assumes* that even the godly are likely
to be *incontinent*" when it comes to the matter of sexual desire. And
history and experience unite to prove that many of the godliest of
men--including men who are godly and *married*
have a very hard struggle against the unlawful indulgence of those
passions, in look or in thought.
Why is this? I believe it is most often to be accounted for in the fact
that their passions have never been laid to rest by the satisfaction which
marriage is designed to give them. Their own marriage, for whatever reason, is
not what a marriage is designed to be. Mere physical gratification can never
satisfy the heart of a man (any more than it can the heart of a woman).For a man
to be fully satisfied, and his passions fixed upon an object, and so be laid to
rest, he must be "ravished always with LOVE" (Prov. 5:19).And yet if
you go through life with your eyes open, you must be well aware that this
ravishing love is the very thing, which is missing in manymarriages
among both the godly and ungodly. Some have been led to marry without
ever possessing that kind of love in the first place. Others had it when they
married, but from various causes have lost it. Now whether you wish to pity such
persons, or blame them, or both, the fact will still remain that there are many
marriages, which fall short of providing that ravishing romantic fulfillment
which will satisfy a man's passions and lay them to rest.
And it is another fact that a man who finds himself in such a position,
however he may have gotten there, will have a very bitter struggle to try to
subdue those passions, which are still longing for fulfillment, but cannot
obtain it.
Proverbs 5:19 says ,"let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and
be thou always ravished with her love." There are two kinds of satisfaction
spoken of here, the one "by her breasts" and the other "by her
love". The former is obviously *physical*, the latter is, for lack of a
better term, *emotional*. The first engages the body; the second engages the
soul. Every *normal* man's sexual desires embrace both of these things. (And so
, by the way, do every normal woman's. The physical desires may often
predominate in men, while the emotional may predominate in women; but neither
man nor woman can be satisfied without the fulfillment of both).
No man's passions are ever satisfied and laid to rest until he possesses
*both* of these things together, in the same woman. You know very well that the
most ravishing love on earth will never satisfy a man until he actually
possesses the object of his affections in physical lovemaking. But it is equally
true that physical gratification alone, without a deep and delightful romantic
love, will ever satisfy a man either. He must have both together. If he lacks
one or the other (or both) he will find his passions still persistently longing
for fulfillment, in spite of all his endeavors to subdue them. And those desires
are easily excited by the sight of the feminine form.
The battle is a hard one, and a man who is very strong spiritually, but
who lacks the fulfillment of those desires, may in fact fare worse in the
struggle than a much weaker man who has found the fulfillment which every man
craves. David, we know, was a man of God, and through out the Old Testament
histories, he is held up as a standard of godliness by which all of his
successors are judged. But the fact that he took many wives is a pretty sure
indicator that he never found that *complete satisfaction in ONE*, which every
man craves, and which is the strength of every man who possesses it. Therefore
his desires still burned, and David was weak.
To return to the original question: whether men are "perverted"
or not is really beside the point. How far his desires are normal and right, or
how far they are the result of his sinfulness, may be difficult to determine.
But what difference does it make? You must deal with the facts as they are, not
as you wish they were. The real facts are: many men do not possess the ravishing
romantic fulfillment, which they cannot help but crave, and they are therefore
weak, and easily tempted by the sight of the feminine form. Suppose that *some*
men are so strong, or so fully satisfied in their own marriage, that you could
not tempt them if you would, what then? The fact remains that *many* men are
weak and unsatisfied and burning. With the strong you need not concern yourself,
but you are bound by duty(as you *ought* to be moved by *love*) to "bear
the weaknesses of the weak"
yes, even of the weakest
and not to put stumbling blocks in their way.(Rom.15:1)
But "If a man looks on me to lust, that is his sin, not
mine".Nay--"Now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy
meat [or thy *dress*]for whom Christ died...It is good neither to eat flesh, nor
drink wine, *nor any thing which thy brother stumbleth or is offended and made
weak* ". (Rom. 14:15,21) David was made weak, David was made to stumble, by
Bath-Sheba's careless exposure of herself, and your display of your feminine
beauty will have the same effect upon your brethren.
After reading this article you can hardly plead that you do not know
this, and "to him that *knoweth* to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is
sin" (James 4:17). If you were completely ignorant of the effects your
dress might have upon a man, you might dress as you please without sin, but not
otherwise. Every man is fully responsible for his own sin, but you will
certainly be held in some sense responsible for another man's sin, if you
provoke him to it. To Ezekiel, God said, "When I say unto the wicked , O
wicked man, thou shalt surely die; if thou dost not speak to warn the wicked
from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; *but his blood will I
require at thine hand*" (Ezekiel 33:8). The wicked is fully responsible for
his own sin, and shall surely die for it. But the watchman is held accountable
also, merely because he failed to do what he could have done to turn the other
man from sin. How much more will you be held accountable if you put stumbling
blocks in another man's way, and actually provoke him to sin?
But "If I were to follow all of these instructions, I would have to
buy a whole new wardrobe, and that I cannot afford". My sister, you can not
afford to sin. If you are a real Christian, you came to Christ resolving to
forsake every sin, and do the whole will of God, at any cost. If you have a will
to do right--you will find a way--or cry to God to provide one. You can afford
to change the way you dress. You cannot afford to sin, or to provoke others to
sin.
But" I am not attractive or shapely. No man is likely to be tempted
by the sight of me. Therefore I may dress as I please". In the first place,
you are no proper judge of what is attractive to a man. It is of course true
that a shapely and beautiful woman is more likely to be a temptation to a man
than a plain woman, but it is also true that a woman who is not attractive to
one man will probably be to another, and even the homeliest will attract
somebody. But just suppose that you are actually so ugly that no man would ever
look twice at you. What about your example to other women? What about your
example to babes in Christ, who have dressed improperly through all their
ungodly life, and who may now be looking to you to teach them and lead them in
the right way? Do you want them to look at you, and excuse their own improper
dress on the basis of your example?
Finally, some women are so naive, so ignorant of the nature of men, that
they suppose that because no men are actually making advances or propositions to
them, they must be no temptation to any man. Let them understand that a man
derives great pleasure--sinful pleasure--from *looking* at women, from looking
at any and every attractive woman. Why do you suppose that men spend millions of
dollars a year for pornographic *pictures*? Let the *pictures* be left out of
the pornographic magazines, and see how many copies they would sell! What
pleasure is there which prompt men to continually purchase at so great an
expense? What pleasure can pictures afford them, except the pleasure of looking?
It is looking at a woman's body, which inflames a man's passions and regales his
imagination, and there is great pleasure in that looking.
Most men will freely indulge in that pleasure, with little or no
restraint. They will feast their eyes upon the feminine form wherever they may
find it, and this of course will include your form if you dress so as to expose
and display it. Godly men will recognize that pleasure as sinful, except when it
is confined to their own wife, and they will fight hard to resist the temptation
and conquer the sin. But because of the extreme strength and intensity of the
male passions, they find this to be a very hard battle. The spirit is willing,
but in the face of strong and continual temptations, the flesh is weak. To will
is present with them, but sometimes how to perform they find not. In spite of
all their determination and praying and striving, they may find their eyes
seemingly involuntarily drawn to the sight of a beautiful and shapely woman, and
a moment's involuntary sight may be enough to take the heart away. A man who has
gained some mastery over this kind of temptation may easily resist the initial
onslaught, but constant exposure to such allurements may weaken and break down
even the strongest. Therefore we are told to "*flee* youthful
lusts"(II Tim. 2:22)
to flee from the very presence of such temptations. but whither shall we
flee in this wicked world? Must we flee from the very congregation of God in
order to keep our hearts pure? Shame! Shame! If we cannot find a safe asylum
there!
To conclude: there is nothing at all evil or wrong about your physical
beauty. It is the creation of God, and is, like all that He has created,
"very good". It was designed by God for a specific purpose: the woman
was made "for the man"(1 Cor. 11:9) The perfectly obvious design of
your beauty is to ravish and satisfy the heart of a man
but *a* man, not of every man. If God has joined you to that one man,
then by all means give that beauty to him with all your heart, and say to him,
"make hast my beloved, and be thou like to a roe or to a young hart upon
the mountains of spices" (Song of Solomon 8:14). Let him be, as God
commands him, satisfied with you at all times, and always ravished with your
love (Prov 5:19) . Thus satisfied, he will be the less susceptible to the beauty
of charms of other women. Thus used, the beauty of your body will glorify the
God who gave it to you, and serve the man for who it was given. But if you put
it on display and prostitute it to the gaze of the whole world, you only glorify
yourself and serve the devil.
Postscript. If you are as most woman are, much of the material in this
article may be new and strange to you. You may not be able to understand it, and
may be reluctant to believe it. Some of the woman who have read the manuscript
can scarcely be persuaded to believe that the male passions are as I have
represented them, but the *men* to whom I have submitted it, have fully endorsed
it. One of them (a godly man, and a preacher) said, "I wish I had about 2
million copies". I beg you therefore to *believe* these things, though you
may not be able to understand them. Secondly, I beg you not to be content with a
single reading of this paper, but rather to study it thoroughly several times
through, so that you may fully grasp and remember all that it says. Then, by all
means, act upon what it teaches you. And finally, do everything in your power to
teach all these things to your sisters in Christ. In doing so you will very much
oblige,
Your Brothers in Christ.
Notice: this may be freely photocopied and distributed.
Every soul in every conference, in every part of the Lord's vineyard, has
the privilege of knowing the truth. But truth is not truth to those who do not
practice it. Truth is only truth to you when you live it in daily life, showing
the world what those people must be who are at last saved. GCB, April 3, 1901
par. 10
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COMMENTS
RECEIVED FROM GODLY WOMEN-
Dear
Temcat, Could you please forward my response to the author of the above mentioned
article.
I am writing to you as a woman, as a Christian woman (of the age 28). As I
was reading your article one thing echoed in my mind: this is what we need. Finally someone (and luckily not a woman but a man) has put down these true
statements properly formulated/compiled. I must tell you, as a woman, that
every single female creature if having some intellect knows exactly why she
chooses a certain style of dress and what the consequences might be (even if
it is only a tiny temptation aroused in a man, any man). I must also agree
with you that women cannot attain such wisdom unless they ask it from God
and
allow themselves to be led by the Spirit to know what is right. Plus the
fact
that today the selection of clothing is so wide that no one can find any
excuse not to find the best garment (bearing in mind all those principles
you
listed). I need to add though that I am not innocent either as far as being
ignorant. It is so easy just to put on something and rush to work (to the
company of men). But as you said if we have our wardrobe changed according
to
God's Word, no worries whatever we find in it in the morning. I lived in several countries in Europe and I see the same trap everywhere that Satan sets up in the area of clothing. I also noticed that many, many un-Christian women dress more modestly than the so called Christian ones. And even if we do not like to talk about such issues one great responsibility,
still rests upon OUR shoulders: this you also mentioned and that is the
example we give to our children and those around us. To sum it up: it is a shame on us that as you said our churches are not even
right in this area. I remember going to church with my husband and telling
him
how sorry I felt for all men present because of some really ignorant young
women who dressed the way they did. We all have a lot to learn still but I
hope we (especially women) will take it seriously and not found wanting in
the judgement. I will translate your article into the language of the country I live at the moment and distribute it amongst the teachable spirits. Hope the people of God will wake up. God bless you for your honest and loving remarks and instructions. Your sister in Christ. -BW
I
myself made the switch to 'modest apparel' a few years ago- God guided me
and I sort of developed my own style- It is a variety of the original reform
dress- I found it to suit me- and I don't impose it on anyone else. I often
wear slacks with a dress over- at least knee-length. I am warm and secure in
any position this way- I love it! Women are really fooling themselves sometimes- I heard a talk show briefly
years ago- and these almost bare women were dancing on tables and sticking
their whatever right in the face of men and they were complaining that some
of the men grabbed them or pinched them!!! The were calling the men pigs for
this- I was wondering who the 'pigs' really were! Of course that is an
extreme example- but it shows the blindness of women. -TC
Dear
TemCat I enjoyed your article very much. I think if women followed these principles the world would be a lot safer to live in. The world would be a lot better without women's careless and the Hollywood movie perversion...not to mention the internet which unfortunately has wonderful reasons to exist and also horrifying reasons to be distroyed... Because of all these, our teens and children have to live in fear for sex offenders, when they step out of their homes. - CC
Thank
you for this article... I have always tried to be modest since I have come back to the Lord but I didn't understand my duty to my husband. I have often felt concerned about whether it was appropriate to "fulfill" his need to see me, for want
of a better phrase and wondered whether his needs for fulfillment in the bedroom were offensive to God...
This article has really helped me with this issue as well as with the clothing modesty issue. -CN
to
Temcat
Thank you so much for forwarding that article. I had my husband print it off
as I don't like reading off the screen for any length of time and we discussed
it over breakfast. It re-alerted us to something over which we were challenged
many years ago before our four children (3 girls and 1 boy, now adult) were
married. They all felt strongly about modesty but it caused irritations and
controversy amongst other fellowships - the arguments the brother mentioned in
the article were all thrust at us. However, we maintained our stand and the
girls especially got a lot of ridicule. The youngest girl, Ruth, refused to
wear the regulation school skirt which was just above the knee and I made her
a longer and fuller skirt for which she got into trouble with the teachers and
the other children mocked her. But she gritted her teeth and carried on
regardless and of course they accepted it in the end because kids can't keep
that up for long! We have emailed the article to all our family as we feel
that some things have slipped over the years and we need to re-assess again.
This
world has an invidious way of encroaching on even those who wish to be modest.
Swimming is one of those areas. At first all those years ago we decided we
should only go to single sex sessions at the swimming pools and that was
maintained for quite a while and I don't think it's gone too wildly awry
but now there are grandchildren who want to learn to swim and so the mums take
them swimming when there are men around (not many as they try to go when
children and their mums go) and the Life Guards are often men. So here the
compromises come in and one wonders how to circumvent the problems.
As
my husband and I were walking on the beach this morning I mentioned this as we
passed a bikini-clad young mum. He, quite rightly, replied that if our sights
are on the Lord's will and His desires and purposes then we don't have a
choice, we cover up and sacrifice the pleasure of swimming and sunbathing in
view of the opposite sex. He and I at our age and maturity can say that
without hesitation but I foresee questions from some of the family! It
will be interesting to hear their reactions when they've read the article,
it'll certainly promote discussion. Don't misunderstand me, all of them are
basically in agreement with modesty and hate the state of undress in the
world. My husband says that the author's assessment from the man's point of
view is absolutely correct. And the Bathsheba angle is one we hadn't seen
before.
From
my own point of view I welcome any new directive from the Lord but I recognise
that all of us are at different places in maturity and need to be sensitive to
that. The knock-on effect of Bathsheba's sin of 'ignorance' is a very potent
message to us women folk and although many in the Christian community would
laugh us to scorn I believe it is extremely important. The Lord clearly tells
us to live in the world but not to be of it and that is a hard road,
especially today but we need to see the importance of our effect on the world
and to be different and honour our Lord in the world.
I
well remember a Christian doctor at the Youth Group our children were
attending when these issues arose, back in the late 80s and early 90s, saying
that when he and his wife walked along the beach he'd admire the scantily
dressed young women and his wife would admire the scantily dressed young men
and that it is perfectly normal to do so. Needless to say he thought we were
legalistic, unrealistic and were leading our young people into repressed and
difficult futures. I would like to show him now that his prediction has proved
totally untrue and that all of our family are happily married and, as the
writer of the article said 'satisfied at all times and ravished with their
love'. For this we are very thankful and all the thankfulness goes to the Lord
who has watched over them and led them to husbands and wife of His choosing.
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